How to effectively chat with girls? What is the essence of conversation?

Chatting isn't that complicated. Simply put, it's two people sharing thoughts and feelings, seeing if they click.

Think about it: when you chat with friends, don't you often ramble? Talking about food, work, or recent misfortunes – the goal isn't to "explain something clearly," but to "see if you get along." It's the same when chatting with women. Don't always think, "I need to impress her" or "Is she testing me with that remark?" Relax, and just interact with her like a normal friend.

The key isn't what you say, but whether you're truly listening and responding to her feelings. For example, if she says, "I'm so tired today," don't immediately lecture her: "If you're tired, go to bed early," or "You need to rest." She's not looking for life advice; she wants to express her emotions. You could say, "What happened? What kept you so busy today that you're so tired?" This makes her feel like you care, rather than just trying to solve a problem.

Also, don't always think about "flirting" or "showing off." Many people start chatting by boasting about their experiences or telling jokes, afraid the other person might find them boring. In fact, authenticity is more important than being entertaining. If you're nervous or a bit unsure what to say, it's okay; admitting it is fine and can actually make you seem more genuine.

The essence of chatting is building a connection. It's not a Q&A competition, nor is it about showing how smart you are. The more you try to "win" the conversation, the more likely you are to push people away.

So, relax, talk like you would to an old friend, ask about her thoughts, share your own small stories, and don't be afraid of awkward silences. Sometimes, a moment of quiet is fine. The main thing is whether, when you're talking together, there's that feeling of, "Hmm, this is someone I'd like to get to know better."